hey y’all

August 15, 2012

i have so many thoughts when it comes to writing and sharing things on the internet and i’m gonna do something i think it’s really scary right now. i’m gonna share some of my thoughts and possible future ideas for my  blog, right here!

some people are really honest in how they are feeling and then share it all over the internet – for example twitter, facebook, blogs and other social media channels. i envy them for doing that and at the same time get really tired of always reading about it. it truly is both ways. i haven’t shared a lot of my private life and feelings on the internet at all the past years, and kept it to myself or shared it with the absolute closest one, my love, instead. i think it’s scary sharing my deeper thoughts with other people (which i’m actually sort of doing right now, gaaaah!!!).

so i’ve been thinking of why i’m scared sharing things here on my blog/other social medias…and have come up with some possible reasons:

– who cares about me and my feelings?
– will my readers start disliking me now?
– what will the readers think about me?
– what are the readers gonna do with the information?
– who exactly is reading it?
– how will it be next time we’re seeing each other (if we do)?

it’s a bit challenging writing on a blog. what to write? what pictures to post, show, and share with you all? my wish is for people to find it fun, good, and interesting reading my blog. i guess the reason of all the doubt about sharing things, is that i have no control of the ones who are reading this blog. i know i can fix a password for the blog and people can request the password and then i’ll have “the control” i perhaps need or want BUT i’m working hard on losing some control in my life right now – to let a lot of that go..gosh, this is so so SO HARD.

at the same time i feel kind of stuck and in one way not completely honest here on the blog, so do i really need a password in order to be able to share more of my life? will people really request a password or will they just skip checking in here then? i wish my blog could grow to be more of a give-and-take-blog. i write something, people leave comments, and we start having a dialouge with each other. but perhaps it’s too much to ask for? on the other hand, you readers might leave more comments if i start sharing more here too? am i right?

what are your thoughts about it all?
should i start writing more honest about things, and then share it with you all here in order to be able to write more and be more honest? should i create a password you can request for? will readers request it then or is it too much of  work then? or should i continue like the way it is right now?

(i just have to tell you that even though i might start being more honest and share things on my blog, i still have a private life and things i’m still not gonna share since things are pretty hard right now but i’ll share more than i do today.)

5 Comments

  • Reply Carissa August 15, 2012 at 10:27 PM

    I totally understand why you’re hesitant to go posting all sorts of personal stuff online. I’m the same way, hence the fact I don’t have a blog. 😉 But like you said, it’s harder to get into conversations with people if it’s all just surface-level. Personally, I would still follow your blog and would be more likely to comment if it were private enough that you felt more comfortable sharing. I’d love to keep in touch with you better, and that would be one way to do it. 🙂 So that’s my 2 cents!

    • Reply Lier August 16, 2012 at 7:06 AM

      It is really hard finding the balance of this…Thanks for sharing your thoughts about it all!

  • Reply Nicole August 16, 2012 at 8:48 AM

    Well why don’t you keep your general blog in the same style as you have it cause I think a lot of people like little inputs, fashion and music tips etc and you just create one part of your blog as a private password entered page. This way only your friends will have access to that. I btw know exactly what you mean and always think twice before I press publish.

  • Reply Liz August 16, 2012 at 8:51 AM

    my two cents? just write, baby. write what you feel. i know that it is something that makes you (all of us) feel vulnerable, but write what you feel, without giving all the details until you want to (if you ever want to). this is your space, your place. use it however you want. you deserve your own space to just be you. as for the password, i don’t know the answer. i must have low expectations of people (hehe), because i think that not everyone will request it just because it takes time. i will, though of course! 🙂 at the same time, those who do ask (because there will be people who ask) will be people who truly care & are interested. it’s a tough call. take it post by post, and just see how you feel.

    so, did i help any? hehe.

    i am just so excited to read/see blog posts from you because i think that you are amazing. i love you, my everything!

  • Reply Barb August 17, 2012 at 1:21 PM

    I think there is wisdom in being cautious about what you put “out there” on social media. I have been reminded that it never can be taken back, and as you said, you have no control over who sees it or what they do with it. I would have no problem signing in with a password, and would prefer reading a blog that was less about nail polish and clothes and more about thoughts and feelings. So if you want to appeal to 50 somethings, that would be my suggestion 🙂

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